A Quick Update

In 2010, we moved back to the small town in Colorado that I never stopped missing while we lived in Mexico. Now I sometimes miss Mexico, but I wouldn't travel as freely as we did when we were there, camping out in remote areas and so forth.

Mexico today is in a period of change, and in many ways it is more dangerous now. That said, I have plenty of American friends who still live there very happily, just taking a few more precautions than they did in the past.

Just to say!


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May 10, 2006 — Dean, one of the readers of this blog, is a gay man who plans to move to the Lake Chapala area with Dave, his partner of twenty years. I asked him if he would send me some comments on being gay in Mexico that I could post here, and here is what he sent. He also made the comment that he is very heavy and that he’s been stared at for that in Mexico more than for being two men together.

Our first trip in Mexico was to Puerto Vallarta. Sooo gay. We felt very comfortable there and that might have set the tone for a rest of our trips.

We’ve always been treated very well. We find Mexicans very polite and helpful and don’t have any complaints. I know or have corresponded with several gay men expats in Mexico and hear similar stories.

A couple in Morelia said their neighbors were not happy when they first moved in, but earned their trust quickly just by being good neighbors. There are also several gay couples around Patzcuaro that have similar experiences.

We have a friend in PV who has had a boyfriend from Zihuatenejo for years. He even built a house for his partner’s family there. I think they’re accepting, but are still disappointed that their son is gay.

I talked with a man in Ajijic who says he and his partner are very comfortable there. He said it’s not much of an issue to most people and that they have more straight friends than gay. We saw several couples, I’m assuming, when we were there as well.

One problem we had was from a gringo couple at the place we stayed. We could tell they were stand-offish. After they left another guest told us they were “disgusted” that we were “sharing a bed”. She said they also made some terribly racist remarks too, so no surprise I guess.

At a restaurant in Ajijic we received awful service and wondered if the waitress had a problem. We later found out awful service is standard there.

In Guadalajara the hotel manager insisted that the clerk put us in a room with two beds. We get that in the states too.

We’ve only been tourists though. I have to wonder if neighbors will accept us when we live there full time. Will we be free to live anywhere we want?

5 Comments from the old blog:

  • At December 18, 2007 2:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    My partner and I are considering a move to PV when I retire–we’d love to hear from otheres already doing the same.

  • At December 18, 2007 2:50 PM, Blogger Rosana Hart said…

    I suggest you do some Google searches.

    “Puerto Vallarta” gay

    should bring up some interesting pages. Also search for

    “Puerto Vallarta forum”

    in general. Plus, there are likely gay forums where retiring to Mexico could be a topic.

    Shouldn’t be hard to connect with some people.

  • At April 15, 2008 2:25 PM, Anonymous steve cross said…

    Hi all,
    My partner and I have just moved from Puerto Vallarta to Ajijic and opened a B&B.
    We feel very welcome here as a gay couple and only had one bad experience in a restaurant but or neighbors have been very welcoming and all other services the same. The servise in restaurants etc can be a little slow, but that is beacause of the pace of life here, not because of prejudice. We are in our 40’s and have just loved it so far.

    Steve Cross
    Casa de las Flores

  • At April 15, 2008 4:23 PM, Blogger Rosana Hart said…

    Thanks, Steve! Maybe we will meet sometime.

5 Responses to “A Gay Couple’s View of Mexico”

  • Nate says:

    San Miguel de Allende it is a gay friendly city.
    No one really cares. My partner and I of 30+ years built a place near San Miguel and live a quiet life no hassles. If you are a gay couple who love to entertain San Miguel is perfect people love to party and most of the straight couples have gay friends relatives or both.
    They love to discuss the local new “Boys” at bridge, did I mention we have been together 30+ years and they call us Boys.
    Gotta love that , right?
    San Miguel is full of Gay and Lesbian couples some own Bed and Breakfasts , some own Galleries. Some are there just to partake of the good life.
    So come to San Miguel and live a safe sane existence.

  • Brad says:

    I and my partner bought a home in San Juan Cosala about a year ago and plan on living most of the year there–only have a business in the States which we must atend to also. We like the area Lake Side and want to meet some people (Gay or straight) it doesn't matter—Any insights on the area for us would be helpful–We have been down in past years several times and know Ajijic and parts of Chapala– San Juan Cosala we only know the house which we will make a home-

    Thanks- Brad

  • Rosana says:

    I'm sorry we've moved back to the States and won't be able to meet you ourselves! It's easy to meet people in San Juan Cosala. Stroll on the malecon. Get your fresh produce on Tuesday mornings from Carlos and Blanco at the tianguis, they are near the far eastern end. (We usually saw other expats more in midmorning and later than quite early). And best of all, eat at Viva Mexico, a few blocks west of the plaza on Porfirio Diaz and tell the English-speaking owner Agustin hello from Rosana and Kelly, and tell him and Carlos and Blanca that we send our greetings and that we are fine.

    Geez, that made me a bit homesick!

  • sean2011 says:

    My partner is in his 60’s and I am in my 50’s and have looked at PVR for a partial residence. It is one of the most expensive places in Mexico due to the large number of expatriates and tourists but, on the other hand, has a number of services that you don’t find much place else. As far as gay is concerned, neither of us find the indigenous Mexican look very attractive (short, round faced, squat proportions) and the expatriates seems to be heavily seniors – not necessarily ideal since all ages should be a good mix. I think that nowhere is “ideal” but you have to pick and choose where and how you live.

  • Rosana Hart says:

    Umm.. I have seen a LOT of gorgeous Mexicans, of both genders, who don’t fit your description. In any case, enjoy your life wherever you end up!

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